Newlyweds say sleeping in separate rooms has increased their intimacy - 'His snores are too loud'

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Nelly Grecian, 27, and husband Andrew, 33, after proposing.
Nelly Grecian, 27, and husband Andrew, 33, after proposing.
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  • Newlywed couple Nelly and Andrew have gone against the 'norm' by sleeping in different rooms in their home.
  • With Andrew being a heavy snorer, the couple felt that the decision was the best to ensure a good nights rest for the both of them.
  • And while some may be concerned that separate rooms would negatively impact their sex life, Nelly says it has actually increased their intimacy.

This newlywed couple has revealed they sleep in separate beds. 

Nelly Grecian, 27, and husband Andrew, 33, have gone against the 'norm' by sleeping in different rooms in their home in Stockton Heath, Cheshire. 

The content creator insists sleeping separately has benefitted their relationship as they feel refreshed and revitalised after every snooze as opposed to groggy as Andrew snores like an 'elephant'. 

Nelly has tried to sleep with ear plugs and recruitment consultant Andrew has previously worn a chin strap to bed in a bid to prevent his snoring, but it has proved unsuccessful and the couple are much happier in their own beds.

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"We have been together for seven years and lived together for five," Nelly explained. 

"It isn't a terrible time if we must share a bed but on the whole, it is too much. Andrew falls asleep within seconds and snores his head off, whereas I am up every 30 minutes wondering how I can make him stop."

Though she comes from a family of snorers, Nelly said she's never heard anything like Andrew's. "It is so deep and loud. It doesn't even sound human."

To avoid both her and her husband being grumpy due to a lack of sleep, separate beds seemed like the best option.  

"Some may assume it would make us more distant, but getting what we want, which is a good night's sleep, waking up feeling refreshed and resting - makes our relationship so much more special. 

"It is nice to wake up and then wake Andrew up; it is part of our routine." 

Nelly said some people assume their relationship lacks intimacy due to the sleeping arrangement, but she insists their sex life is no different. 

"Whenever I tell people, they are either all for it or they recoil in absolute horror at the fact I dare sleep anywhere other than in Andrew's arms. 

"Some people love the sound of having an undisturbed sleep but fear it will have a negative impact on their sex life. But it has increased our intimacy, we are much more awake and alive when it comes to having sex now. 

"Our intimacy doesn't come from sleeping underneath the same duvet, it comes from quality time, cuddling and physical touch. Sleeping separately may not work for everyone, but it works for us!" 

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Nelly Grecian, 27, and husband Andrew, 33, on their big day.

Nelly and Andrew may have shared the honeymoon suite on the night of their wedding on 18 June [2022] but they returned back to their own rooms at home. 

She encourages other couples to go against the 'norm' and make their own rules. 

"It is an undiscussed and not spoken about taboo. We are expected to sleep with our partners, but it doesn't serve everyone. Every partnership is different, so people should have the freedom to make their own rules.

The idea of having to share a bed with your partner is old-fashioned, Nelly believes.  

"Generations and different stages of society saw it as the 'norm' but this generation are pushing boundaries, especially with relationships. 

"A lot of aspects go under the radar and people don't think about it. I think it is more normalised for someone in a relationship to get up and sleep on the sofa rather than setting out and sleeping separately from the get-go." 

Source: @nellyandicecream/MERCURY PRESS/

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