Weddings: Make sure your guest doesn't impose on photos, and more tips for bringing a plus one

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Illustration. Photographed by Oleksandr Hrytsiv
Illustration. Photographed by Oleksandr Hrytsiv
Oleksandr Hrytsiv
  • Single shaming is common amongst society, and single people are always frowned upon for choosing to be single and given multiple names like a spinster. 
  • Although it's not uncommon to expect personal questions about marriage from people at any family gathering, weddings seem to be the worst as they are the one event where individuals are always encouraged to bring a partner.
  • One bride-to-be took to a wedding Facebook group to ask if other brides are planning on charging guests to come to the wedding and if singletons would be expected to pay more per head.

The bride-to-be posted on a Facebook group, “Hello Family, am I the only one charging guests to come to my wedding. $65 (R948) couple, $45 (R580) singles.” The prices mean that single people get to pay more per head than couples

The post was screenshot and made it to Reddit, and users were outraged, with one saying, “I hope they expect zero gifts in exchange for that golden opportunity.”

Others made jokes asking with laughing emojis, “Are there group discounts for families? Do kids under 3 get in for free?” Others asked why couples get special treatment, “Why do they get a deal if they’re a couple?”

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Single people are required to bring plus ones at a wedding because of the golden rule that couples cannot be seated with single people at a table.

Wedding etiquette can be somewhat confusing to guests, so we’ve gathered ten rules for when you’re attending a wedding with a plus one.

  • If a wedding invitation doesn’t say plus one, don’t bring one.
  • If you get a plus one, RSVP using your guest’s name and not ‘plus one.’
  • If asked for dietary requirements, ensure you include those of your plus one's too.
  • Make sure your plus one sticks to the theme.
  • Don’t bring someone who is going to embarrass you, other guests or the bridal couple.
  • Ensure your partner or guest knows what time the wedding ends so you don't have to leave before the end.
  • If you can, introduce your plus one to the couple and other friends who will be at the wedding long before the actual wedding. If that's not possible then introduce your plus one to the couple and your friends at the wedding but don’t make it about you.
  • Make sure your partner/guest doesn't impose on photos because not all bridal couples want strangers in their wedding photos.
  • Make sure your gift reflects the fact that you brought a plus one.
  • If your plus one doesn’t know the couple, don’t ask them to chip in for a said gift.

Sources: Bustle, Reddit

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