Woman accused of 'stealing the thunder' after proposing to her boyfriend a day before her sister's wedding

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  • A woman on Reddit asked if she was wrong for proposing to her partner a day before her sister's wedding.
  • She wanted her fifth anniversary with her partner to be special, but it was a day before the wedding.
  • Some Reddit users agreed with what she did, while others thought she was selfish.


No one wants to share their spotlight, especially if it's their wedding. When a bride plans their special day, anything that shifts attention from them can cause drama.

A woman took to Reddit to share that she proposed to her partner a day before her sister's wedding.

She explained that she and her partner had been together for five years, and their anniversary was a day before her sister's wedding.

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She wrote: "Mine and my partner's five-year anniversary was on the 21st, a day before my sister's wedding. I had decided to propose on the day of the anniversary to make it even more memorable.

"After I came home, I announced our engagement in our group chat, which consisted of six people - my parents, sister, her then-fiancé now-husband, brother, and grandma. Everyone congratulated us heartily, including my sister."

She added that although her sister congratulated her, she also sent her a private message saying that she stole her thunder.

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"She said that I should have at least waited till after her wedding to announce the news. I was frankly shocked and told her that I wasn't planning on announcing the engagement at her wedding or something stupid like that, I just told family, but she didn't listen to me.

"I was a bridesmaid the next day, and she acted really cold with me throughout, especially when the people from the group chat privately congratulated me enthusiastically," she wrote.

Some Reddit users did not see a problem with what the sister did, while some thought she was wrong and stole her sister's shine.

One user commented: "Ridiculous. How many days must people refrain from expressing life events before the holiest of holy wedding days? A wedding is not the centre of the universe."

"Wow, way to steal your sister's thunder. You could have waited until way after her wedding to announce it," commented another.

Do you think the woman was wrong for proposing before her sister's wedding? Tell us here.

Source: Reddit

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