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Bella, 24, moved out of her mother's house four years ago, but since that time she has asked for thousands to pay her overdue rent or phone and electricity bills.

"I wish I was the type of person who was better with their money, but I feel like I never learnt budgeting skills, and I underestimated how expensive living out of home would be," Bella explains. "I don't want to ask for money, but if I'm looking down the barrel of eviction, I kind of have to. I know my mum finds it incredibly frustrating - it's not like she hands over thousands with a smile on her face - but she hands it over nonetheless."

This scenario is being played out right around the country. According to a CommBank Kaching study, we "borrow" an average of $213.58 (almost R3 000) from our loved ones each month, so Bella isn't the only one asking her mom for the occasional bailout.

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