5 Reasons Why You Should Marry A Black Woman

2014-12-11 08:15

Black Woman - Marry Her

I love Black women, not just because I am married to a beautiful Black Zulu woman but because the Black culture transforms every Black woman (if she is willing) into a GREAT WIFE! Yes, from the Xhosa tribe in South Africa to Swahilis in most of East Africa, the Ibos and Yorubas in Nigeria and the Ashanti in Ghana, it’s all the same. A Black woman learns how to be a complete wife, mother and individual. Just ask our Elders and I guess that is why you pay lobola when marrying a Black woman, as a confirmation of a future good relationship with her family.

In general, the Black woman is groomed from childhood to be everything a man needs from a woman and a wife. She is educated and skilled in cooking, washing, house-keeping and creating love in the home for her husband and children. She is wise and smart in making decisions for her home despite her imperfections. She has knowledge and experience in entertaining guests. She knows when her husband needs his space and how to coax him out of it. You will hardly find a Black woman that doesn't know what it takes to do that. She is strong, wise and loving. I think I can speak on behalf of all men married to a wonderful Black woman - our most sincere thanks to those women’s mothers and grandmothers!

So whatever your skin colour, I highly recommend to you the beautiful, elegant, classy and intelligent Black woman as a future wife. Here is why:

She is Not Selfish – The backbone of a lasting marriage is self-giving, selflessness. This is a higher level of commitment. I am not saying you should lose yourself and become a ‘slave’. Black women are raised to not be selfish, but to reciprocate love and give excessively to her family and children. I strongly feel it was Black women who first demonstrated “Ubuntu”. That said, there is a difference between having healthy boundaries and being selfish. Selfishness causes a breakdown in intimacy and vulnerability and leads to always being suspicious of your partner. Healthy boundaries create an environment that fosters open, honest and respectful communication.

So if you meet a Black woman who is not selfish, marry her. 

She is Not Jealous – A lot of women are jealous by nature, and that doesn’t change when they get married. So I recommend the Black woman who is taught to manage her jealousy for the sake of community living; for the sake of creating a happy home. I’m not talking about a woman who is prepared to ‘put up’ with anything. Yes, some may argue that a healthy level of jealousy is actually good for a relationship. A little is OK but too much of it brings insecurity, and is an expression of low self-esteem. A Black woman does not behave in an unseemly manner. She has learnt how to balance her own expectations with that of others, and maintain her dignity.

If you meet a Black woman who is not jealous, marry her. 

She is Not Materialistic – The majority of Black women dream of getting married to a man who will take really good care of them. A man that understands and lives the words - “for better or worse, until death do us part”. A Black woman doesn't want to get married for money, although there is nothing wrong with living a comfortable life. For a Black woman, a happy family is more important than riches. The evidence of true riches for her is the happiness and good health of her husband and children. This is 2014 and yes, the single ladies are showing how independent they are. But don’t confuse her independence to mean she is materialistic. A Black woman is still very focused on fulfilling the part of the marriage vow that says “for richer or poorer”.

If you meet a Black woman who is not after your money, marry her.

She Loves Sex but Won’t Cheat – Black women love sex, for fun and procreation. She understands that sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but she will give you the best sex of your life – a close-to-heaven, out-of-body-in-your-body experience. Her desire is to be satisfied by the man she loves, and not to be satisfied for the sake of satisfaction. Her sex drive is high and she will satisfy her husband without complaining – especially not of a headache! She values the sense of togetherness and oneness that can only truly be found in marriage. Her awareness of the intimacy that is created through sex with her husband is the stuff legends are made of.

If you meet a Black woman who loves sex and doesn’t cheat, marry her.

She Loves God – A Black woman is always spiritual and you can’t divorce her from her beliefs. Prayer is not a routine but a lifestyle. The day starts and ends with prayer. She knows that her true beauty is revealed in the presence of God. She attends church regularly and has a good report among her peers. You will certainly be in good hands because daily, she will pray for your health, job, business, and children. She is a lover of Jesus and understands the value of His death on the cross. She talks the talks and walks the walk, and practices what she preaches.

If you meet a Black woman who loves God, marry her.  

Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against women of other races. I think they are also great. I am just sharing, from my personal experience and those of other men, the top 5 qualities and reasons why marrying a Black woman is so awesome.  I’m talking about the kind of Black woman I grew up to know, the one who works hard to get educated, take care of the family, denies herself for the sake of family, and carries a huge sense of community.

If you meet a Black woman who is none of these, do not marry her, she is not a TRUE BLACK WOMAN!

But I know you want to, so just marry that Black woman, brother! Enjoy your holiday.

What are your thoughts on what makes Black women unique? Do you agree with my reasons?

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