Getting ready for days as a daddy

2015-02-05 10:43

A few months ago when my girlfriend showed me the pregnancy test with two lines on it I instantaneously became the happiest person alive. Very few people knew that we were actually getting the proverbial ball rolling to become adoptive parents, something we will definitely continue doing in a few years, so as you can imagine this news was divinely timed.

Now, here we are, 28 weeks into the pregnancy of our first child and it has been a helluva ride thus far. From the embryo days when we weren’t really allowed to tell anyone because it was too early, keeping our excitement to ourselves, right up to seeing our little miracle kicking like Naas Botha.

As nausea builds more acutely in my girlfriend’s body everyday so too does the anticipation in mine. There are definitely days when I am overly nervous and anxious. Questions storm through my brain. Do we have enough money? Is our place big enough? (Which it isn’t and now we’re moving) What kind of dad will I be? Is my laaitie going to be healthy?

I watched my girlfriend deal with the changes to her body by turning to advice from experts and other moms. I decided to do the same. So there I was searching the most random things online. Digging up blogs written by dads, watching vlogs of dads hushing their kids to sleep and even a very weird and unsettling video of a dad showing us fellow fathers how to wipe a bottom, which he illustrated on a doll.

I also tried to decipher advice from gynaes and paediatricians, some I found very interesting, but most was gibberish.

Being an older brother to two very younger siblings I’ve had my fair share of babysitting duties. So it is not that the poo nappies, screaming in the middle of the night, vomit on my shoulder that makes me nervous it is the overwhelming sense of responsibility that rolls over me. Firstly, my desire to stay healthy and, well to put it bluntly stay alive, has never been greater. No more crazy extreme sports. Then the desire and need to provide, putting extra hours into my business, branching out and building a future. Also, and most importantly, to continue loving and respecting my child’s mommy, the love of my life. Kids pick up on tension and unhappiness between folks and I don’t want my kiddie to ever go through that.

Digesting all this daily information, along with insightful pieces advice from people; “listen here china, your life is about to change forever, I promise you,” is difficult, so I think, for now, I’m going to go with my gut and follow my instinct. What else is it there for?

Read more of my days leading into fatherhood here:

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