Relationships in modern society – what are they made of?

2014-05-27 08:45

Checklist:

Ambitious

Amazing Personality

Fashionable

Philanthropist/Activist

Gorgeous

Nice Smile

Intelligent

Faithful

Committed

Hard Working

Well Spoken

Passionate about her interests

Leader

Successful

Caring

Gyms

These are just some of the aspects on my checklist when I think about and consider what qualities I would like in a girl. The worst thing that can happen to you is to end up being with someone you feel isn’t who you really want; someone who doesn’t suit who you are as a person.

With Kanye West and Kim Kardashian getting married recently, I am uncertain as to the intentions of the pair. Personally I am a huge fan of Kanye West. His music and his confidence really inspire me to do great things with my life, but I really question everything about the Kimye relationship. To this day I believe that Kim was beginning to lose relevance in the media and needed someone prominent to help her up the ladder to even greater fame and that person was Kanye. Added to my feelings about this is the fact that Kanye stated in his song ‘Future - I Won’ that Kim is the perfect “trophy wife” and that’s all he needed to complete his superstar image. I think the most important thing is missing here - love.

Nowadays we get open relationships, complicated relationships and even just the one night stand type of relationships.  Even though I hear elderly people say that during their generation there wasn’t any of this, I have to disagree. I think that social media platforms like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram have become the home of the same relationships individuals a generation ago would have experienced, just this time, through these platforms, the relationships are open to the public. That is why divorce, separation and marriage counsellors are so common.  However I am still very much old school, as I believe in loyalty, integrity and commitment in a relationship. If none of these are present I believe that you shouldn’t be in that specific relationship, especially if you have any thoughts of being unfaithful. I don’t believe in open relationships either - having fun with numerous people should never earn the title of a ‘relationship’.

I am a big fan of Beyoncé and Jay Z, two of the most powerful people in society who are looked up to by millions of fans. To see such a couple being 100% faithful and in genuine love with each other gives the rest of us hope. These days it is common to hear about a partner in a relationship who has been unfaithful and who tries to spend months fixing the relationship when quite clearly, it is already broken. I might be really old school but I personally believe that when a girl is loyal to a guy and a guy loyal to a girl, such situations can be avoided and it becomes so much easier to build upon the relationship and put effort into the relationship because their minds subconsciously see and feel stability and consistency.

The sad thing about our generation and why people are so reluctant to date and get into relationships is this idea that is set in most young peoples’ minds -that loyalty and commitment isn’t really needed in relationships anymore (well at least until you get engaged or married) and that’s completely wrong. Many of my friends, both male and female, have been cheated on or betrayed in some or other way during a relationship and it really changed them. I can see now that they struggle to trust and that they really don’t believe in relationships anymore.

A relationship cannot develop further if it is not set with the foundation of trust and stability. There is absolutely no room for any true and genuine feelings to come to the surface when the trust and stability foundation has not been laid. Once two individuals have established such a foundation and understanding, they will be able to grow together in knowing that they can trust one another. A relationship should be stable as well, for if there isn’t stability and commitment, then what exactly is the point of a relationship, right? Individuals do not form relationships simply to be unsure and end up calling it quits – the purpose of a relationship is one common goal that two individuals share – forever. The youth these days simply do not understand what a real relationship truly entails and what is acceptable and not acceptable within a relationship – I guess that’s the sole reason we have ‘open relationships’ and ‘complicated relationships’ – in these there is no understanding about what love really is.

It has become acceptable to enter into a relationship with someone and after a few months, end it and move on – this is common practise and is something that truly makes me question what our world is coming to. What happened to meeting someone and working on ‘forever’ with them? That concept has unfortunately flown out the window and has become the reason for the most disastrous break-ups and divorces. This problem clearly stems from lack of morals, values and respect by certain individuals. People need to revaluate and think about what a relationship truly is and the components that are needed for it to last.

I continue to question our generation’s integrity; trust is such an important characteristic in life, not only in relationships. If you cannot be faithful and committed to your relationship then that opens up so many questions about your ability to be committed in a corporate environment or be truthful to your friends.

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