Relentless consumptions that tell me I may never be enough

2015-11-01 06:02

A woman is like a butterfly. If you want her to stay near you, but fly as she should, you must not brush off the dust on her magical wings nor control her essence in your hands. Her beauty will be held only by a stillness and purity of heart.

Everyday I am bombarded with conflicting images that tell me I am lacking. Relentless consumption framed as self-improvement depends on the lie that we will never be enough. I do not wish for women to have power over men, but over themselves. We cannot negotiate our value unless we know our worth. Women have been taught that for us, the earth is flat and that if we venture out we will fall off the edge. Just because I am a woman I must make unusual efforts to succeed?

Over the years I have seen something emerge from what was regarded as meekness - where many people live according to what they believe to be the way to life; that a man leads and a woman follows. Many still wonder why the cry for equality is still vivid. When you see someone whom you have always considered to be weak suddenly becoming strong, it worries you. To me it says that a person's social and moral traits are predetermined by his or her inborn characteristics. The focus of sexism is inferiority, which is directed towards those who have sometimes been considered to lack even the ability to be evil.

Instead of attempting to fix and deal with the differences, the wall between two maintains, unions and agreements are never attained.

If we accept the society's definition and remain disconnected from our authentic desires, our lives are drained of meaning. I have learned that the greater part of our happiness and misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances. No woman should be required to build the world by destroying herself. Initially, men were taught to apologize for their weaknesses and women for their strengths. This artificial script leaves us with an extremely narrow role.

As humankind progresses, our ways of thinking become more complex, as does the world around us. The values we once had are not forgotten, but replaced with new ones as our old ways hide at the back of our minds. Though they are present and may reappear if a change in life condition calls them up. Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry.

I refuse to accept the view that mankind is tragically bound to the starless midnight of sexism that the daybreak of brotherhood and sisterhood can never become a reality. Weakness is what brings brutality and all these things will keep our society chained to the ground, one foot nailed to the floor.

Until women learn to want economic independence and until they work their way to this independence without denying themselves the joys of love and motherhood, feminism has no roots.

Twitter handle: @MercySechogela

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