Stop People Seeing You as they Think You Are: Let them Start Seeing You as you Really Are!

2013-01-13 18:46

Good day into the new year! 2012 has past and we are facing a new year 2013 with its challenges to South Africa and the world. The critical thing is self creating yourself and your little world...

As you self create yourself one thing you have to remember is that other people often see you not as you are, but as they think you are. This in most cases causes concern in your life and internal turbulence – you find yourself torn. Most people because of their own psychological personal experiences and ingrained life expectations may see you, and their relation with you in ways that are not based on the reality of yourself but on their own unclear perceptions. And so they go on in their relationship with you treating you accordingly in the way they want you to be not the way you are. This is creating great turbulence and psychological sadness - you often find yourself ultimately accepting these perceptions about you. You start acting accordingly based on their personal perceptions. Humans are like that – you are human and you are bendable by the thoughts and views of people formulate about you.

Let are look at examples about this issue…

Sometimes you may find yourself in a situation where you just can’t get through in your workplace because your boss and sometimes colleagues think you are incompetent. This will be so no matter how hard you try to do the excellent things.

Or sometimes your girlfriend thinks you are undependable that you are not man enough that you don’t have the toughness that comes with being a man.

In both these cases you are up to a projection, where the other person does not see you clearly, and no matter how hard you work to convince them of your worthiness they have drawn a line on cement and cannot accept in your own terms. In other words they are finished with you. You are a done deal and from hence forward you have accepted and now you just have to wallow in these false perceptions. The whole thing leaves you bewildered, misunderstood and angry. It is at these contexts that some people even commit suicide because they cannot stand it. .

Well your response to this problem is simply to be aware of them in a positive way. Recognize the problem for what it is. Simply recognize that truth is stranger than fiction. Simply recognize that the majority of cases people are simply living a lie every day and this is one of those lies. And in this context your purpose is to help heal these people in an upbeat positive way not becoming angry with yourself or them. The most important thing is just be withdrawn when you are with these people. They will sense you are not around, what in fact it means is that they are not able to access you from the spot they created for you. Then this is the time you need to help them from their false perception. Become a coach and help heal the world.

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