A study using 100 women between the ages of 35 and 45 found that many women are happy with their marriage but still seek sex elsewhere. However, it should be noted that the participants were all on a dating site specialising in people seeking extramarital affairs.
While some might think individuals visiting such sites must be in desperately bad marriages, none of the women in the study expressed a desire to leave their partner.
When asked their reasons for seeking an affair, 67 per cent said they craved “romantic passion".
It could seem that making more time for sex is the answer. However, researchers claim spicing things up with an existing partner isn't always enough.
“A long standing sexological finding is that sex with the same person gets boring,” study author Eric Anderson, Ph.D., a professor of masculinity at the University of Winchester in England, and chief science officer at AshleyMadison.com, said.
While some couples can compromise on an open relationship, this is rare. Instead, it could be that communication is key.
“A lot of couples, even ones who are deeply in love, just don’t know how to talk about sex,” Jenni Skyler, Ph.D., a sex and relationship therapist and director of The Intimacy Institute in Boulder, CO, explained.
A good place to start could be a sex workshop, where couples are encouraged to discuss what does and doesn't turn them on as a way to spark communication in the bedroom.
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