‘I’m done talking. I’m turning off my phone for a few days. Bye.’
Ashley Stockell from Austin Texas, was left devastated when her husband, Josh, texted her those words saying he was leaving her for another woman.
But the mom-of-three made the tough decision to wait for him.
Ashley told Love All Matters that she sobbed all night and felt as if her heart was being ripped out of her chest.
“He was leaving to be with someone else,” Ashley said. “I was devastated! I cried all night.
“My friends came over and cried with me and prayed over me as I bawled my eyes out.
“Sad isn’t a sufficient word for the way I felt when he told me he wasn’t coming home. My heart was broken. Half of me had been ripped away.
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“You know when you watch a war movie and someone loses a limb? All the parts of the inside are exposed and just hanging out? That’s how I felt. My person was done with me.”
A few days after Josh had left her, Ashley decided to stick to her marriage vows and wait for him, The Sun reports.
“I knew after reading the Bible that God wanted me to wait on Him to do the work in Josh. I couldn’t change Josh’s heart – I’m not a heart changer, but Jesus is. All that He wanted for me to do was wait on Him, stay close to Him, and trust Him in every next step.
“Josh had broken the covenant, but I hadn’t. I would wait it out,” she said.
A few weeks after Josh left he texted Ashley to ask if there was still hope for their marriage.
“I told him there absolutely was hope for us! Then, nothing . . . for a while. He couldn’t figure out what was true and what wasn’t. He was a mess inside,” Ashley recalled.
For three months the pair would meet at the park and restaurants so that Josh could see the kids. And then one day he asked Ashley if he could come back home.
“It was so nice to have him back in our lives because we loved him so much, but I’m not gonna lie, it was awkward.
“We had gotten into our own rhythm and we all needed to readjust to life together. But over time, God worked that out as well, as we knew He would.
“Josh would visit us almost every day after work and on weekends and we went for counseling together,” Ashley says.
The couple found counselling incredibly valuable for making as much progress as they did.
In July, Josh moved back in with Ashley and the kids.
“Today, we’re closer than we’ve ever been. My husband’s heart has joy and my heart is at peace. Our family is loving every minute together.
“We tear up periodically in thankfulness that we’re together…as a couple and as a family.”