How I found out my partner was cheating


Discovering your significant other has been unfaithful is rather unpleasant, but these folks discovered the betrayal in some pretty horrific ways. 

They shared their stories on Reddit.


"His mistress told me at the wedding of a mutual friend so that was nice.

I held my cool until we left, I wasn't giving either of them the satisfaction of seeing me look like the crazy person or ruining someone's big day."

-- flowerbright


"Came home early from work and walked in on it. Yep, that's about as cliche as it gets, but there you go.

Funny thing is, I had wanted an open relationship, but he said that he couldn't deal with that. Turns out he was just selfish."

--  seriously-you-guys


"Walked in on them in bed together about 3 weeks ago. She was also a close friend. They work together and I've since found out they were carrying on for weeks before I found them. It has destroyed me.

People also don't realise how shameful it is to have to go and get an std test when you thought you were in a monogamous relationship for 2 years. I bawled my eyes out right in front of the doctor. Clean tho[ugh], so I've got that going for me."

-- sarahexperience


"Came home from working a double shift and found the toilet seat up. Either my wife didn't [use the toilet] for 20 hours straight or there had been another man in my house.

Suspected it was her 'gay' friend from work. I also knew that said friend was trying to sell his house, so I called the real estate agent and asked the see his place. Right inside the front door, i recognised one of her jackets hanging in the mud room. Proceeded to the living room and bam...right on the f***ing mantel was a picture of my wife and this guy.

We divorced shortly after. She ended up marrying this guy...then cheated on him...and now they are divorced. Didn't feel bad for him at all."

-- signalthree


"She had a number of alternate Facebook pages under pseudonyms. One day, one of them showed up on my "suggested friends" and I said 'Hey, this girl looks a lot like SO [significant other].' So, I looked at it. Sure enough, it was her, and she had an active relationship going on with someone else.

I later found two more of these pages."

-- PrimeEchoes


"Just got on a flight in London headed to Vegas. Sitting next to my GF and she wants to show me something she has planned for the trip so gets out her phone.

It opens to the Messages and shows a chat with a guy (I know him) saying how much she is gonna miss him and how she doesn't wanna go away with me anyway."

The doors close on the plane and that was a really f***ing fun 10-11hrs...

-- Anonymous


Was the night of her company Christmas party. I had to stay home and babysit our five-year-old son (Grandma was supposed to, but she fell and was in the hospital with a broken hip.)

I figured wife would go and then come home early. Turns out, she was planning to stay the night at a hotel so "she could drink and not worry about driving."

I woke up about 3am just knowing something was wrong (never happened before) and checked 'Find My Phone' to see where she was. She was with her boss at his apartment.

Pretty much sucked."

-- JimmyTheTemp


"My dad told me.

5 years later.

On the morning of my wedding to another woman.

After I dumped the cheater for unrelated reasons.

And my entire family pushed for me to get back together with her.


-- Worlds_Best_Coffee


"I received a letter in the mail from a college I never went to. Weird....

Inside, I found the entire texting history between my now ex-husband and his lover. I have determined that the sender was most likely the lover herself or her scorned husband (local police officer.)

Added bonus: At the time, I was 7 months pregnant."

-- redefine_happy

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