Quite often, motherhood is portrayed as the best thing that will happen to a woman. The bond she shares with her child is said to be a special one without limits. And who can hate those cute little booties, right?
But not everyone is sold on this idyllic image of motherhood. In fact, a new mom who has been "doing this gig for five months" feels motherhood is a "sick joke you never quite understood until this moment." "All those cute bonds ads, miniature Nike shoes, adorable baby shower gifts, baby spam on Instagram, squad dates with your mum posse and those g****mn laceylaners lied to me," wrote Storm-Manea Ellyatt in a brutally honest Facebook post addressed to "my people ?#?nojudgementclub?". "Not once did I see an ad with a mum locked in her cupboard crying in her leaked stained pjs from 3 days ago, covered in sweat and vomit, praying to every god imaginable for the strength and patience to go back to the s***show that is now their life."
The mom-of-one has also openly documented her struggle with motherhood on Instagram. "I don’t know how to hit the right note between loving someone so unconditionally that they could LITERALLY s**t on you and you wouldn’t bat an eye, and the hardest most trying experience you’ll ever get the blessing of doing. "I didn’t feel the bond as he grew, however my demeanor changed."
She doesn't want to scare people, but she also wants to be honest, says Storm-Manea Ellyatt. "The once calm, poised, patient goddess, who could sling [cocktails], swear with sailors and dance uninhibited until tomorrow afternoon, can [barely] hold a conversation, hold her eyes open or the tears back from this new found 'bliss'," she wrote on Facebook. The frustrated mom points out the backlash that mothers tend to get when they get honest about motherhood. "And the irony, oh the irony that everyone hates it at one point or another but you have to remember that hating it out loud is a kick in the face to everyone that would give everything for a moment of 'hating it.'"
So instead of being candid about it, you "post the photo, you cliché the f*** out of your status because your hashtag loving it hashtag mumlife hashtag soblessed and when people ask you, you say with all the vigour of 2 hrs sleep 'its honestly the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to me,' and when there’s no cameras, no people and no judgement you let out the loudest F****** YOOOOUUUU known to man, although it’s under your breathe, or screamed into a pillow, or yelled from the foetal position of your cupboard because your little ones finally asleep."
"So we somehow pick our shattered self off the floor, trying to piece together a resemblance of a person and do it all again.
"Cheers all you amazing parents that dust yourselves off and do it again, with the smile of a thousand curse words, shattered souls and hopefully a strong coffee or wine in hand."
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