1 Don’t try to solve your wife’s problems.
When your wife tells you a problem, believe it or not, she doesn’t want to hear your solution. She only wants you to LISTEN to her. It’s called empathy, and completely illogical for most men. This idea goes against our core beliefs – surely problems are meant to be solved? That’s why it can lead to “collisions” with your wife. So remember if you want to solve a problem, turn to Sudoku instead.
2 Nothing pisses your wife off more than her being busier than you are.
Let me rephrase – when your wife is busy, the last thing she wants to see is you lying on your fat arse doing nothing. She hates that!
You are only allowed to take time out and chill on the couch if your wife is not busy running around. Bear in mind also that no matter how busy your wife is, she always has time to come and see what you are up to. Thankfully the Learner Husband book is filled with ideas on how to pretend to be busy while actually daydreaming.
3 Assume you’re wrong before you think you’re right.
This is the learner husband golden rule. It’s based on the K53’s “Keep Left, Pass Right” rule. It’s genius in its simplicity. It’s the belief that as learner husbands we assume that perhaps our wives may possibly be right and that (unlikely as it may be) you as the husband are wrong. A simple way of looking at it is that it takes two to have a collision. If you avoid collisions, there won’t be any – regardless of who’s to blame. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A RIGHTEOUS COLLISION.
4 Take time out for yourself
You’re going to love this tip. You NEED time on your own. Be it at a monthly poker game or spending an evening in your man cave. As long as it’s a place your wife is happy to send you off to. (Sorry guys – no visits to Teazers)
Ladies, give your man this time. It’s how he processes. He’ll return more focused and committed. I know some wives are hating the idea that this allows their men to now have a man cave but, in context, the rest of the house is your woman cave.
5 Invest in your marriage
Life is long, gents! You want someone by your side when you’re old and you need help going to the toilet. Look at the effort you spend on your marriage as an investment. Whether you’re feeling bullish or bearish, this policy will stick by your side and celebrate with you. So put in the time, put in the effort and build those brownie points. When you hit the proverbial speed bump, you’ll be glad that you did.