Woman marries herself after breaking up with her partner


Linda Doktar (34), from the Gold Coast in Australia, found herself newly single last year – and decided to embark on a journey of healing and reaffirmation.

On Valentine’s Day last year, the conscious coach decided to hold a self-marriage ceremony to confirm the emotional journey she’d been through.

Linda’s close friend, Ej, who is a relationship coach, introduced her to the idea of a self-marriage ceremony.

“Ej had just begun to hold these ceremonies for others, and I thought this was a beautiful concept to symbolise my journey into loving and honouring myself on a deeper level,” Linda said in a recent interview.

“I thought this was a beautiful concept to symbolise my journey into loving and honouring myself on a deeper level.

“Ej asked me to write my vows and commitments for my special day. She also asked me to choose a dress and a song that would mean a lot to me.”

Linda kept the ceremony small and intimate, and chose not to invite people so she could focus on herself.

“There was a red satin walkway, lined with rose petals and flowers, it was beautiful.

“As the ceremony progressed, I read my vows and commitments out loud to myself, while looking into a hand-held mirror.

”I didn’t have any guests, it was just Ej and her two assistants for the photos.

“When I look back at my ceremony I smile because it reminds me of a turning point in my life when I decided to connect to deeper levels of self-love and self-connection.”

Although she believes marrying herself won’t close her off to relationships with other people, Linda wanted to confirm the love and respect she holds for herself through self-marriage.

“The only person I have to live with for 24 hours a day for the rest of my life is myself,” sge said.

“I believe the most important relationship I’ll ever have is with myself. I know and understand the quality of the relationship we have with ourselves determines the quality of experiences we have with others.

“After being disconnected from myself for so many years, I now plan to continue on my journey of self-love. This has significantly improved the state of my internal happiness and the relationship and connections I now experience outside of myself.”

Source: Magazine Features