Gwyneth Paltrow shares how she co-parents with her ex and other celebs who do it well

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Gwyneth Paltrow and her ex partner Chris Martin. (PHOTO: GALLO IMAGES/GETTY IMAGES)
Gwyneth Paltrow and her ex partner Chris Martin. (PHOTO: GALLO IMAGES/GETTY IMAGES)

Let’s face it, if anyone knows how to make a success out of just about anything, it’s Gwyneth Paltrow.

Just look at her lifestyle brand Goop, which, if a lesser mortal had started, would probably never have seen the light of day. But Gwynnie has made vast swathes of money from people who want to buy her vagina eggs and scoop up candles that smell like her – well, you remember.

But not even Gwyneth has everything easy. The actress-turned-queen-of-the-Goop-iverse recently confessed she found something far more down to earth as difficult as the next person: raising two kids with her ex.

In a recent interview on The Drew Barrymore Show, 47-year-old Gwynnie told how she and ex-husband Chris Martin (43) have been co-parenting kids Apple Martin (16) and Moses Martin (14) after they “consciously uncoupled” in 2014.

“Chris and I committed to putting them first and that’s harder than it looks,” she said. “Because some days, you really don't want to be with the person that you are getting divorced from.

“But if you’re committed to having family dinner, then you do it. And you take a deep breath . . . and you just recommit to this new relationship that you're trying to foster,” she said.


Despite the challenges, she says her relationship with the Coldplay frontman is better today than it was when they were married. And even though their marriage is over, they’ll always be a family.

“That's how it will be forever. Some days it's not as good as it looks. We also have good days and bad days. But I think it’s driving towards the same purpose of unity and love and really what’s best for them. We have this idea that just because we break up, we can’t love the things about the person anymore that we loved and that’s not true,” she continued.

Gwyneth married Brad Falchuk in 2018 and Chris started dating Dakota Johnson in 2017, and the families celebrate everything from birthdays to holidays together.

Conscious uncoupling, Gwyneth says, allowed her and Chris to realise that two different loves can coexist and nourish each other. “I know my ex-husband was meant to be the father of my children, and I know my current husband is meant to be the person I grow very old with.”

Here’s a look at other Hollywood stars who are co-parenting successfully.

Courteney Cox and David Arquette

David (49) says they have always made their daughter, Coco (16), their No 1 priority. In May 2019, he told US Weekly that he and Courteney “have respect and love for each other and just [are] on the same page. And [with] Coco, we’re just super lucky”.

In an interview with Yahoo! Entertainment earlier this year, the actor said he and Courteney share a really open and supportive relationship when it comes to co-parenting. “We never went head-to-head, [or] battled each other, through the process of divorce and through the process of raising our kid. So it’s made for a friendship and relationship that is out of respect.”

Orlando Bloom and Miranda Kerr

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The 43-year-old actor and the 37-year-old model married in 2010 and split in 2013. In 2017, The Pirates of the Caribbean star told Elle UK that he Miranda co-parent their son, Flynn (9), “really well”.

Earlier this year Miranda’s husband, Evan Spiegel, told WSJ Magazine that her and Bloom’s co-parenting relationship is very different than most. At the time he said in no way is he a replacement for Flynn’s dad but rather feels like he is part of “Team Flynn”.

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner

The former couple prioritise co-parenting their three kids, Violent (14), Seraphina (11) and Samuel (8).

In an interview with in November, the Batman actor said you have to cooperate and be on the same page. “If you recognise you both have the best interest of the kids at heart, it’s quite a special connection. We’re the only two people in the world who care this much about these three kids,” he said.

Drew Barrymore and Will Kopelman

The Charlie’s Angels actress and her ex-husband still celebrate holidays as a family with their daughters, Olive (7) and Frankie (6). In 2017, Drew referred to their relationship as a “happy, unorthodox union”.

While speaking to Gwyneth about co-parenting earlier this month, Drew said, “None of us want to get it wrong for our kids just because of what happened in the marriage. This is about their relationship with their dad and their mom, not about their relationship with your marriage.”

Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony

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The singers, who share twins Max (12) and Emme (12), separated in 2011 after seven years together. In an appearance on Live with Kelly in 2017, JLo said she and Marc are in a really good place.

“The kids get to spend time with the two of us more together and see us working together. We’re always going to be great friends. I’m always going to be there for him, he’s always going to be there for me.”

Christina Milian and The-Dream

In May this year the 38-year-old actress told Us Weekly that she is “really proud” of her co-parenting relationship with daughter Violet’s dad. “We've managed. We've done so well. It's been 10 years. I’m really proud of how we’ve always put Violet first and our friendship goes along with that as well, but we get along great.”

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