“I was told I’m a poor love” – Dr Louise answers your burning questions

I have eventually, at the age of 35, acknowledged to myself that I am gay, and now I face a dilemma. When I was younger I did what was dictated by the norms of society and so I got married and had a child. I have never been happy in my marriage even though I am married to a wonderful woman. It is not her fault that I am unhappy and long for the embrace of and intimacy with a man.

But I don’t know what to do now. I feel that after seven years of being married and having a child together, I can’t simply tell my wife that I am gay and want out of the relationship. How do I deal with this?

-Basil, email