“Should I tell his wife?” – Dr Louise answers your burning questions

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My first wife died 10 years ago after a long battle with cancer. Five years ago I met a woman who’s 20 years younger than me and I was sceptical about the relationship because of the age gap but she convinced me she was happy with me.

I’m the director of a company and quite well-off, and from the time we got married four years she’s made financial demands on me – she wanted a new car, a lot of spending money every month and I had to foot the bill for her to go away on holiday alone if she felt like it.

I respect people’s privacy and so allow my partner a lot of freedom. But a year ago I started feeling something was amiss and hired a private detective to follow her. He discovered she was having an affair which has been going on for eight years. He got evidence that she and this guy had decided she’d try to hook up with me to get me to basically fund their fun times.

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