Ask Dr Louise: I love to see married men fall

Man taking off wedding ring. (Photo: Getty Images)
Man taking off wedding ring. (Photo: Getty Images)

Troy, email

I’m 28 and find that I’m attracted only to married men. I can still find single guys but somehow they just don’t have the same appeal to me.

I see it as a challenge when  I meet a married man who tells me he loves his wife and is faithful to her.

I simply want to get him to make love to me and fall madly in love with me. But after he’s done I seem  to cool down and start looking for my next “victim”.

What’s wrong with me? Part of me realises this sort of behaviour is sick and really not acceptable.  I know I’m hurting people but I don’t seem to be able to stop  doing it.

Dr Louise advice

It might be that you have a deep underlying resentment towards married men and that this anger is driving you to get your “revenge” on them.

This could come from having a family member – your father or an uncle perhaps – who was a Casanova and you saw how this behaviour affected the people around him and it provoked anger in you.

You need to consult a psychologist trained in hypnotherapy who can help you access your unconscious mind to get to the root of the problem.

Only once you’ve figured out what’s motivating your behaviour with married men will you be able to resolve it.

What you’re doing now doesn’t bode well for your long-term happiness, so  it would definitely be worthwhile getting to the bottom of it now.




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