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Are you constantly measuring yourself against others? Here's why you should stop that comparathon immediately

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Comparing yourself to friends can make you lose sight of your own strengths and values as you forget to notice all the good you’re doing and only focus on what you don’t have or aren’t doing. (PHOTO: Gallo Images/Alamy)
Comparing yourself to friends can make you lose sight of your own strengths and values as you forget to notice all the good you’re doing and only focus on what you don’t have or aren’t doing. (PHOTO: Gallo Images/Alamy)

Most of us are champions at the art of instant comparison. We get together with an old friend and instantly clock her outfit, her hair, handbag, if she’s put on or lost weight.

We meet someone for the first time and almost subconsciously note the same things about their appearance, as well as glancing to see if there’s a ring on their left hand and asking where they live and what they do.

We’ve become veterans of working out where we sit on the career/relationship/ looks ladder compared to pretty much everyone else. And social media has simply intensified it.

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